The last month has been a stressful one in my marriage. It was nothing “serious” but I knew it was happening and things needed to be discussed. My husband and I work together, raise two wonderful kids and also have our relationship to deal with it. I want to share this with you because social media as good as it is also has it flaws. It makes us believe marriages are perfect and everyone has a fairy tale life.
With a busy work schedule and kids going back to school, it was an adjustment and we put our relationship in the back burner, which is never a good idea. We let little disagreements get to us and the resentment was building up but it was never discussed because we were in a mindset of “go, go, go”. I talk about this in my podcast but I was getting into a mindset of “why me, poor me” and blaming him for how I was feeling, and not taking full ownership about my feelings and my attitude. I wasn’t looking at the full picture.
I’m usually pretty good in getting myself out of it but after a few weeks, I didn’t like how I was feeling and how he was feeling. I needed to address the issue. It wasn’t a pretty discussion but it needed to happen and then BOOM. You feel like you can breathe again.
We both agreed to make a choice every morning to be HAPPY with each other. To go back to having date night and trying to have breakfast together at least twice a week. This helps us stay connected.
As a business owner, I realize the importance of staying connected with our customers and employees. On building better relationships so my clients and customers are happy.
Why aren’t we doing that with our marriage? We should treat every relationship in our lives with the same respect and effort. Marriage is work, every day. It’s waking up every morning and making the decision to love the other person regardless of their flaws, making the conscious decision to CHOOSE happiness.
In the lastest episode of “ Mom, Wife & Boss life” podcast, I talk about my schedule and the difference between being productive versus being busy.
Don’t go to the office and multi-task just so at the end of the day you look at your to-do list and notice stuff got started but not completed. As a working mom, I need to juggle my career, my household and family so I make sure I prioritize by making a schedule and a to-do list. I use my 10x planner from Grant Cardone and it has been a lifesaver!
I’m not a fan of apps on my phone because I will get distracted and use social media! Yes, I admit it! I will get sucked into it so I rather have a planner where I can physically write on and also look at my goals for the day/month.
Let me know what works for you! How do you plan your schedule and how do you manage your day with the family and kids?
As I get older I realize how important it is not to take life so seriously. Have fun at work, have fun with family, have fun with friends. Have fun while doing life.
Have fun, be authentic and enjoy every minute of the present. Let’s enjoy the now and worry about the later, well, later. We get caught with work and social life that sometimes we forget to LIVE.
BE YOU.DO YOU.
I’ve been feeling guilty because I haven’t been blogging or doing my “Mom, wife & Boss Life” podcast. But, I shouldn’t because I’ve been busy doing my new podcast called” The Unfiltered wife” and just trying to keep my two humans busy.
I’m super excited for you guys to listen to all these incredible stories of adversity and how they overcame their obstacles! These ladies are truly the definition of strong. I will be releasing it August 1st, so go sign up at www.theunfilteredwife.com for updates!
In the new podcast episode of “Mom,Wife & Boss Life” I talk about what people prioritize in the weekends. I was asked if my I get mad because my husband sometimes has to work on Holidays or weekends and that’s what inspired this topic.
I discuss that my family doesn’t start living life on the weekends and work doesn’t stop at 5pm on Friday’s. I believe the hustle never stops especially if you are running your own business.
Click on the link below let me know what you think of the episode!
MOM, WIFE & BOSS LIFE